Did you know approximately 1 in 4 people in the UK have been suffering from a mental health problem each year? Mental health problems can be anything from anxiety to schizophrenia and all are equally as difficult for the person suffering. I have been reading so many articles recently on male suicide rates rising as they feel as if they can’t talk to anyone if they are struggling. Just because a man is a man doesn’t mean that he should feel like it affects his masculinity if he is struggling mentally, because it doesn’t.
“The rate of suicides in Britain has risen sharply to its highest level since 2002, with men accounting for three-quarters of the number of people who took their own lives last year, official figures show.” – The guardian.
I have in particularly paid attention to the amount of young people suffering with mental health or coming to the irreversible conclusion to end there own life. It is saddening in so many ways and I wanted to bring light to it on my blog and on my social medias because I feel it is important to keep stimulating the conversation of mental health to normalise it and to help people.
I went through a period of severe sadness, I was prescribed sleeping tablets at night time because my thoughts became profound, I stopped talking to my mum and my brothers and my friends, I lashed out angrily for absolutley no reason, I was tired and unsociable, and most would’ve called me rude. Through this dark period I found a release through my writing…
I would say I was depressed for a few months, however, I pulled myself out of the dark place that barely anybody knew I was in. I knew that the storm was going to pass and that I could induce happiness through things such as eating right and exercising. It was difficult though I will never lie, even when doing the right things physically to help I did still struggle. Articles and social media recommends to talk to someone or ring a helpline but when you are in that moment mentally most people wouldn’t be able to do that at the click of there fingers. Talking does help, I realise that now I have spoken about my struggle to those that know me.
5 things I tried, in order to Mind My Mind:
- Eating right: I cut out the bad food binges that I was subjecting my body too because it wasn’t providing my brain with anything remotely nutritious in order to stand a chance.
- Exercise: This was a very valuable thing that helped me. Even though I was mentally tired I knew that the gym, a long walk or lifting weights releases the correct hormones (endorphins) which contribute to a less cloudy mood.
- Talking: Although difficult, people needed to know how I was feeling and although I didnt tell them immediatley and tried to man up and deal with it alone when I did speak, even if it was only a little bit it helped me to release some of the pent up negative energy I was feeling. Going to my GP was the first step to me opening up. Sometimes a stranger is better than someone you know because they can listen and not feel every emotion that maybe a friend or parent would.
- A hobby: I found my hobby through writing. I wrote and wrote and wrote. Everything I was thinking and feeling I wrote down. My drafts page on my wordpress account is nearly full up haha. But it worked for me and I fell in love with writing on my blog and have continued it now I am much happier.
- Knowing that the storm will pass: I read quotes and kept in the back of my mind that everything is going to get better one day even when I couldn’t see it because my mind was completley unfocused. I felt the pain of feeling depressed and even when I wanted to give up and go I didn’t. Avoiding alcohol or substance abuse if that is how you see fit as a way to cope genuinley is a contributing factor to your mental health.
Now, I will never claim to be an expert because I most certainly am not. Im not a physcologist or someone whose job is to analyse or to try find the best way to help. I am a real person who has experienced a feeling of immense sadness and those dark thoughts that many cannot explain so I can sympathise with those who may be struggling.
Lets mind our minds together
Intent For Content
My views on contentment have completley changed these past few months. I feel like without realising I was searching for someone to feel whole. However , I have learnt that you don’t need somebody to feel whole or content…
I hadn’t really taken a step back to look at how my life was because I was engulfed in a routine of not being alone, spending time alone or thinking alone. That was the routine I thought I liked or the one I was forced into. But life for me isn’t like that now.
I have fallen in love with my own routine and my own life all over again. I love snuggling up at night by myself and watching tv before I go to bed in my own bedroom, with my own thoughts. I love going to the gym alone and swimming or sitting in the steam room alone. I love the fact that I have my independance back as it was stolen from me and replaced was a shell of the woman I am now. I was being supressed which in exchange made me depressed . I had no plans for my future however now I know I have a future. I am strong and resilient and kind to others and myself…I am so glad that I am back…
Extracting the bad out of your life is a huge step towards contentment and learning that contentment is found within yourself is another point to remember. Don’t get me wrong I love the people I have surrounding me, because they are the right people, they can make me laugh and smile and take any pressure I might be feeling away. They are kind and helpful and provide me with a metaphorical place I can call home. They contribute to my contentment inside and out and I am grateful they exist.
When it boils down to it…at the end of the day, you are you and always will be so it is important to find contentment your own way…
Lots of love
Intent for content x
Isnt the future such a crazy, scary but exciting thing.
I love imagining my future or talking about it. What do you think about when you think about your future?…
I think about success and never settling. I imagine myself in a gorgeous flat overlooking the sea or a city…there is no inbetween for those two pictures in my head, my home has got to be there or no where. I see myself succeeding and smiling. I see my family safe and happy and successful. I have this beautiful imagination and a goal that cannot be tainted.
I want to give myself an incredible career. I see myself as a top end lawyer. My favourite vision is of myself stood in court. I am defending the innocent, proving the findings I have, battling the wrong doings of the world and not sitting down until it is done. You know when you can create a photo in your head of something? You can feel it inside yourself that, that creation is a guideline to your current state. I believe that is your heart speaking to you in some sort of way, it is giving you that chance to see what your future could be like if you try and you work and you don’t give up. I feel that it is so important that everyone realises that the world has copious amounts of oppurtunity for us.
I am guilty of being side tracked from my future. Everyone worries about me because my head is in the clouds and I am too kind for my own good. Which is fair enough. However, I know that when I sit alone, like I am sat now, I am writing this from my heart and my head. I know where I want to get to and who I want to become. I know that I will get there if I dream enough and protect the mental creation of my future with anything and everything.
I want to achieve more than just earning money, I want a life, I want to travel and see things whilst loving and living. I want to look back one day and never feel like I settled for less, because I am deserving of so many things…I just don’t believe that sometimes.
There is so much to find in this life, so many stones to turn. So much to experience and find and fall in love with. I believe that thinking about your future is imperative to your success in life. It helps to guide you…but always remember to have fun and smile.
Intent For Content
I was shuddering uncontrollably, the pain seeping through my system like an electric shock. The colour violet replaced my once rosy cheeks, draining my olive coloured skin until it was yellow. Throbbing pulsated on my ankle, travelling up my leg, almost as if someone was running a knife through me. My vision dipped in and out of focus as I tried to concentrate on getting to my phone…
I awoke in hospital. Everything was fuzzy, I could only feel the warmth in my cheeks as I tried to wiggle my toes and move my legs. It was a dull feeling of pins and needles. Almost as if someone had strapped me down onto the hospital bed and I couldn’t escape. I rolled my head to the side and saw my mum. Worry spread across her face, especially her eyes, as she watched her daughter lay nearly lifeless before her.
Doctors surrounded me, as if I was priority. Poking and prodding at me trying to figure out what was wrong and why I couldn’t feel anything. I felt weak as I watched the drip I was attached to feed me like I was a little baby again and that was my plastic spoon. Hushed voices chimed in sync together, discussing and determining what was happening, pointing at the only clue they had…the blister on my ankle. It was now a hole. Black, red and purple mixing together and settling around it to indicate something was wrong. That’s what poisoned me…that little patch where my trainer had rubbed and broken the skin It was covering…that’s what nearly killed me…
All of the following facts and descriptions come from sepsis trust: https://sepsistrust.org
- Sepsis affects 25,000 children each year in the UK
- Sepsis kills 44,000 people every year in the UK
- Sepsis kills 5 people every hour in the UK
Sepsis is the body’s overwhelming and life-threatening response to infection that can lead to tissue damage, organ failure and death. Medically, sepsis is your body’s immune system over responding to an infection.
Donate to sepsis trust to help educate individuals and support those who have suffered from sepsis. I was incredibly lucky too of been made a priority on arrival at conquest hospital Hastings. I will always be grateful.
Intent For Content
I wanted to write this post in aid of mental health awareness day, as mental health is a topic I feel is important to talk about.
Through my job as a barista I’ve met and spoken to some incredible people and continue to do so. A couple of years ago I was told a story that has always stayed with me as I serve coffee on train station platforms.
A member of station staff approached the coffee shop one day and bought a cup of tea due to a delay on the railway line. This was because someone had decided to take there own life. He began to explain how this effects everyone around the victim. The family, the friends, the train driver suffering with PTSD and the witnesses…it reminded me of a droplet of water falling into a pool of water and the ripples which increase from the impact.
If that person or anyone for that matter had spoken to someone that day, I believe it would’ve helped. Talking makes you feel less alone, venting can help to heal. So many people feel they can’t talk about something thats on there mind. Maybe because there embarrassed or society has told them they need to bury there feelings but that is not the case. My inbox is always open for everyone, whenever or wherever Im here. Don’t feel alone, please.
Intent for content
My University planned a dog walk in aid of mental health awareness day. When thinking about it dogs are happy little beings so I thought it was a fantastic idea. Next year or even this year as their never needs to be a nominated day to talk about mental health I want to put together an even bigger dog walk, with more people, more dogs and more charities involved.